Mango (Selfless Love)

My friend sent me this song a few days ago and it has me wrapped up deep in thought. How selfless is love? How many of us are willing to step away because that’s the best thing for the person we love? Is love fighting for our desires? or is giving up more beneficial?

I’d like to think love actually is a little selfish. You’re essentially searching for a symbiosis, a self-sustaining give and take. You want to find someone that gives you what you need while you do the same for them. Sacrifice and compromise is involved, selflessness is involved but so is mutuality.

What if mutuality is no longer possible? Is the ultimate show of love intentionally doing something that hurts you because it makes the other person happy? That’s where it gets really fuzzy. That reward-less act, that self-sacrifice after it guts you. Do you ever recover? Is it healthy?

My final thoughts. We ought to try and make those we love happy even at our own expense. We however, need to find happiness in our choices and in our sacrifices. Otherwise, love ain’t very healthy at all and it’s not worth it.

Hey, ho Hee Ooh If you found some other dude What do I do? If he loves you truly, yeah How could I not love him too? If he improves you More than I used to, hey I don't want nothing but you Getting what you need Even if it ain't from me 'Cause I love you And what love is Never selfish And of service 'Cause I love you And what love is Never selfish And on purpose, hey (yeah, yeah) If I said I had to leave you What would you do? Would you still talk to me? I never want to be cruel to you I can tell you the truth Or what you need to hear If I had to choose Then what would you do? (Ooh) Giving it up is not giving up Giving it up is not giving up If I had to break the news (news) Is it win or lose? (Lose) Giving it up is not giving up Giving it up is giving

'Cause I love you And what love is Never selfish And of service 'Cause I love you And what love is Never selfish And of purpose Yeah, yeah (mmh) Ohh (Mmh, yeah) (Yeah) Ayy If I had to choose (Ooh, ooh, yeah, yeah) (Oh, yeah, said, oh, yeah) Ohh (Yeah) Yeah-yeah Ayy (ooh, ooh) (I will not lose) ('Cause I love you, yeah) 'Cause I love you ('cause I love you) And what love is (and what love is) Never selfish (never) And of service (ooh) 'Cause I love you (I love you) And what love is (and what love is) Never selfish And on purpose Hey, ooh Hey, ooh Hey, ooh, ooh Say, it's good to be, yeah So in love